Hey, Girl

Back in the day, women wanted everyone to “accept what they look like”.

They wanted to be not called ‘fat’, ‘disgusting’ or ‘unattractive’.

They wanted to be called ‘beautiful’.

 

Fast forward to 2015, I recently read a post that went something on the lines of “Don’t call me beautiful. I have my flaws and I accept them.”

Um.
Last I checked, it wasn’t a crime to call somebody beautiful.

I get it.

You don’t need anybody else’s validation.

And I think it’s great that that’s how you feel.

 

But think about it.

Being called beautiful by somebody else isn’t all that bad, is it?

If somebody tells you that you’re flawless, it’s not literary. (WHO is flawless, anyway? Even Chrissy Teigen has stretch marks.)

But that’s the thing isn’t it? You’re beautiful despite your flaws.

The scars, the stretch marks, the things you don’t like about yourself- all of them is what makes you, YOU.

And they’re exactly the things that make you beautiful as hell.

 

When people compliment you, despite your obvious weight, they’re not trying to be pretentious. They’re being nice.

And we need more of those people in the world. NOT hypocrites, but people who care enough to lend a couple of good words.

Admit it, compliments make our day. And leave us feeling good about ourselves.

Instead of talking about somebody’s weirdness, discuss all the good things.

Help them embrace themselves.

 

I am not a very good person, I’ll be honest.

But every day, I strive to be better than the day before.

I try to look for the good in people, and remove my focus from the bad.

I try to be positive, rather than dwelling on the negative.

I’d rather be a realist, but a little optimism never hurt anyone. In fact, it helps.

 

Queen Adele herself, recently made a statement regarding people and their obsession with her weight. And quite frankly, I loved it! This was what she had to say-

I do have body image problems, for sure, but I don’t let them rule my life at all. And there’s bigger issues going on in the world than how I might feel about myself and stuff like that.

YAAAAAAAASSSS.

For You, Beautiful

Sweetheart,

I know the world feels like a terrible place. I won’t lie to you- it is. The world can be mean. The world can be cruel. It can be heartless. It can be cold. But darling, you’re none of these things. And that’s why you feel the way you feel.

I know it seems like everything is wrong in your life. Everybody has problems, but not everybody makes them obvious. And I won’t lie- everybody has different levels of difficulties. But trust me- somebody else has it worse.

I know you think that you can’t deal with this. I won’t lie- it IS difficult. But believe me, you’re strong. And you can overcome it all.

 

My love, everything seems hopeless until you try. Have faith in the fact that everything happens for a reason.

Maybe your “friends” left you alone to teach you who friends really are.

Maybe your heart was broken because it was meant to be taken care of genuinely.

Maybe you lost your self-esteem because you were supposed to learn to appreciate yourself.

Maybe all of what hurts you, heals you.

For even wounds grow skin overtime.

 

Babe, you constantly call yourself worthless and ugly.

Be convinced by my words- You’re gorgeous. And you’re strong. You’re just a little lost.

Beauty isn’t measured by the color of your skin.

Your worth isn’t decided by the number of mistakes you’ve made.

For we’re only human, errors are forgivable. How we choose to mend our ways is what’s important.

I know you presume that degrees guarantee respect. They don’t. Your genuine-ness does. Your honesty does. Your heart does.

Surround yourself with people who care about you, who are plenty in number.

Let go of whatever hurts your soul.

You don’t need those medications.

You don’t require superficial acceptance.

You’re a wonderful human being. Believe that. Have hope in yourself. In your abilities.

Until you let go of the past, you will never progress into the future.

 

Pray.

Feed your soul.

Appreciate your existence.

Dance until your legs hurt.

Laugh until you can’t breathe.

Chase your dreams.

Love yourself first.

 

You are so much more than you assume. Look past it, and you’ll see a whole new world.

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