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Men.

What about them?

They can be great.

They can be generous af.

They can make your world a much better place than the sobby shit you call your life.

 

But what is it about them that drives us insane, and not in a good way?

 

Men will demand your unwavering loyalty and faithfulness. (Why shouldn’t one?) BUT they will do sh*t to deserve it.

 

I mean, yeah, in the beginning it’s all lovey dovey and great. But as the years roll by and comfort sets in, they forget those little tokens of affection and appreciation which pulled you to them in the first place. I’m not talking grand af gestures, but the small act of just being there for her, GODDAMNIT.

 

They’ll pull this awesome af stunt where they’ll disappear on you for hours/days/weeks on end while you go through pulling your weight and facing everyday issues and GOD FORBID you call them and ask for much needed attention. They’ll shoot you down and ask you to “fucking understand”. They won’t appreciate your patience or acknowledge you and once you’re chill enough to deal with your crap, they’ll magically show up like a flippin genie and expect that everything go back to exactly what it was.

 

NEWSFLASH for you hoe, EXACTLY isn’t happening. Because the time when you were supposed to be listening to her fears, her concerns, you were too busy to even notice. And then came a new bitch in town to have her back- HER OWN FLIPPIN SELF!

 

Although, it doesn’t mean that she loves you any less. She’s just learnt to deal with the sh*t life throws her way, a little…differently.

 

 

Some men have the capability of being amazing husbands and great fathers, but the only reason a woman will walk out on him is when she has had enough of being taken for granted.

 

Bitches, take note.

 

*drops mic*

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HEIL FRAU!

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A couple of days ago, I had the chance to talk to somebody about their life- A woman. (Happily?) married for almost ten years now, she spoke to me about her daily routine, things that keep her busy and what her (extended) family is like.

 

And what I found out was shocking, and supremely sad.

 

I had known her for a long time, but I had no idea about whatever she was going through regularly. Problems exist everywhere, but her story, albeit a very common scenario, was heartbreaking.

 

If you ever read this, I’m writing this for you. You were the inspiration behind this. And I love you.

 


 

Rafia (name changed) is a beautiful, loyal and hard working person. Apart from her radiating personality and charming laughter, she is humble, down to earth and severely respectful of her elders and her surroundings. A mother to two children- an introvert and a mischievous bloke, both school going, her days usually revolve around taking care of them, and her in laws, and the rest of the house.

 

I am witness to the amount of work she puts in every single day, from getting her kids to school to preparing food for everyone (give or take- 15 people), tending to her mother in law (who can be rather demanding), picking the kids from school, cleaning them up, teaching them, and handling the house-helps to doing it all over again.

 

Trust me, her life isn’t easy.

 

I have seen her on her feet for hours on end, without any breakfast and no lunch, and not complaining.

 

And what she gets for all of her effort is nothing. Her mother in law has a nasty habit of complaining about her to everybody she meets, and discourages her in front of the same people. Her sister-in-law is of no help, being a “working woman” and always adds insult to injury. Her husband does not value her as one should and constantly belittles her in front of her kids.

 

I clearly remember her crying as she told me all of this. I was aware of the injustices towards this gentle soul, but I had no idea of the extent of this corruption.

I know that women are mistreated in our society, and are considered equal to nothing in front of men.

 

But what angers me are women doing this to other women.

 

WHY?

 

Have you forgotten that you were once in the same position?

 

If you want less of a daughter and more of a maid, get a fucking maid. Please. But don’t ruin a person’s life whose primary goal SHOULD be her family, but she ends up getting pushed into your nasty affairs.

 

I hold nothing against serving your in-laws, after all they are your elders and you should respect them, but silently suffering through misbehavior isn’t something a woman signs up for when she gets married.

 

I’m no advocate of any other religion, but in Islam, a woman has no obligation on her husband’s parents. And if she does serve them, she does it only out of love for her husband.

A Muslim woman is entitled to her own separate house and can also ask for wages to take care of the children. Plus, let me remind you, housework is the responsibility of HER HUSBAND. It is HIS duty to figure out how work around the house is tended to.

 

I know that in the present world, everyone thinks that a Muslim woman is oppressed beyond belief. I’m sorry to burst your bubble, but that isn’t true. I come from a family of doctors, and having 5 sisters, I know a thing or two about a woman’s rights. In Islam, a woman is MORE important than a man.

 

To the people who complain about women being a miscreant or a burden- If it weren’t for a woman, love, you wouldn’t even be existing. Funny, right?

 

It’s so easy to call women weak. But we’re the stronger being. Physical strength can be lost, but breaking somebody’s spirit isn’t easy, you know? A woman can be subjected to a lot of suffering, but she has the strength to bear it all. Probably the biggest challenge being pregnancy and child birth. So before you call a woman weak, think about how your mother silently suffered to bring you into this world and not your father. Think about how much your mother or your sister or your wife or your daughter will love you and take care of you, only out of the compassion in their hearts. Think about how many times she will be torn down, and how many times she will rise back on her feet.

Do you think housework is easy? Give it a try. And do the same thing 365 days in a year. And then live every second without appreciation and tell me how that feels.

 

And possibly what I hate the most, is when men call other apparently weak men, “women” or “bitch” or “pussy”.

 

EXCUSE ME, but we’re stronger than you nut carrying creeps can ever be.

 

Me and another friend have decided that from now on, NOBODY is a bitch- they’re a dog.

NOBODY is a whore/slut- they’re a pimp.

NOBODY is a woman (aurat)- they’re a man (mard).

 

THIS is why we need feminism.

Because women don’t deserve equal treatment, they deserve better.

Because they ARE better.

Better than ANY man.

Better than what society has her believe.

 

She is strong.

She is powerful.

She is amazing.

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“A woman is the full circle. Within her is the power to create, nurture and transform.”

– Diane Mariechild

#GirlLove Tag

Assalam alaikum/Hey guys!

Soooo….

I was tagged a while ago by this gorgeous person, Hiba, where she nominated me for Lilly Singh’s #GirlLove challenge. And I am honoured, to say the least! {thanks babe!}

The challenge is in response to Lilly Singh’s new video (HERE!) on YouTube, and of course you guys should check it out and share it as much as you can because the money made off the views goes directly to the Malala fund and for the education of Syrian girls. And hey! It’s a great and noble cause! So join in!

ANYWAY.

The video is about us- women. And the concept revolves around how we should be uplifting and encouraging to each other rather than belittling everyone. And I think it’s absolutely brilliant!

 

Here’s what you do for the #GirlLove:

  1. Tell your followers who inspires you, a famous woman who may be dealing with negativity on a daily basis. 
  2. Tell your followers who inspires you in real life, a woman you always interact with.
  3. Tag five women bloggers who you love. Compliment them and tell them why you love them, and comment under their latest post with the link to your #GirlLove post!

If you get tagged, do the post on your own blog. If you want to do it anyway, do it anyway! Add the tag ‘Girl Love’ to your post, so we can see them all! Let’s start 2016 with LOVE for each other!


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As A Matter Of Fact

Imagine a girl.

Now imagine a group of guys.

Imagine the girl passing by these guys.

I don’t need to tell you the next situation, do I?

A while passes by, and the girl and one of the guys in the group are dating.

Fate happens and they break up.

Now. Another guy from the same group approaches the girl to console her, to ‘talk it out’. He charms her, and tells the girl that he had ‘liked’ her since day 1. After getting over her initial jhatka, the girl and the second guy start going out.

The second guy goes back to his circle and starts telling his friends about how he managed to patao the girl. And they all laugh about it, and talk about how the girl lacks moral character. And ofcourse, the group still has the first guy in it cuz ‘bros before hoes’, right?

And but of course, they discuss about how another guy from the group will date her once the second one dumps her.

And SHE’S the one without character? Absolutely.

Character. I hate this word.

Despise.

Loathe.

Abhor.

In our extremely ‘modern’ and ‘culturally rich’ society, we are so quick to judge a person’s character without knowing them inside out. And even if we do, we feel that we have a birth right to taint a person’s soul with crude remarks and incessant gossip.

Our values have been moderated so much that a person’s respect is a joke to us.

Agar hamaari izzat nahin hai toh dusron ki kyun rahe?

People go to universities and colleges to observe, categorize and brand other people. And it is a universal subject- something we never get tired of.

But yeah, a course book or a class totally puts us to sleep, until someone says, uske bare mein pata chala?

WHY do we pride ourselves on being so culturally diverse when we can’t even stand a person who isn’t from the same geographical location as we are? When we look down upon somebody who might be financially weaker than us? When we’re not of the same gender?

WHY is it that when two people break up, the female is the immoral victim and the dude is the one that gets away with it? And let me add the scenario where the guy is fooling around with multiple chicks, it is still that poor chick who is blamed for everything. So much that other girls are asked to refrain from becoming friends with her because wo sahi ladki nahin hai.

Our generation is full of guys who LOVE to gossip and tell tales, sometimes even more than women. WAY WAYYY MORE. They’ll pick a chick from their college or mohalla and gang up against her existence. And then they talk about respect. Fuck-off.

Exactly how much time do you have in your life?

Let me rephrase that-

Exactly how much WORTHLESS time do you have in your life? Apparently, all the time in the world.

And then you’ll run around to fix your attendances, and your grades and your rapidly descending and empty life through jugaad.

Good going, mate. You da real MVP.

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I don’t relate to feminism too much because these days, people take it as male-bashing and/or for females to have their clothing/sexual rights.

But I believe we NEED feminism.

Why?

For what I explained above.

For a woman to not have her dignity or her respect taken to the circus.

For a woman to be able to make her mistakes and learn from them. Because that’s what they are- mistakes.

For a woman to be able to walk into her place of education or work without avoiding eye contact with people because of what is being said about her.

For dudes to start respecting women, because clearly, that isn’t the case anymore.


In case you’ve noticed, I haven’t used the term “man” anywhere for the male sex.

Because real men don’t behave erratically.

Because real men don’t indulge in crazy talk.

Because real men respect women.